The Real Reason Your Advice Falls Flat

The Real Reason Your Advice Falls Flat

You probably know the feeling: Someone you care about is struggling. They’re stuck. They’re overwhelmed. They’re not thinking clearly. You can see what they need to do, and you want to help. So you offer some advice. A suggestion. A truth that feels obvious. And then…...
How to Spot Spiritual Narcissism

How to Spot Spiritual Narcissism

One of the reasons spiritual narcissism is so difficult to see is because it is so close to the truth. It borrows the language of Christianity. It borrows the posture of sacrifice. It borrows the call to die to self, to serve others, to pick up your cross and follow...
Narcissism and the Problem of Change

Narcissism and the Problem of Change

Every January, people make resolutions. We want to change. We want to do better. We want to pray more, be healthier, be more disciplined, be more loving. And yet, so often, the same patterns return. The reason isn’t desire or willpower (though both impact the ability...